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It’s a Rainy State

December 4, 2006 at 3:00 am by Designer Ella

Sometimes my Nans gives me money and tells me not to spend it, to put it away for a rainy day.

But you know I’m constantly encountering rainy days.

Every few months I have a budget crisis.

Or I discover I need a new bag or three.

Anyway, this month is one big rainy snowy time, my friends! And there’s a storm right now.

(Hmm, I think this means I need that All-Weather Leather Dooney I just purchased!)

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Guess What Happened at the Wedding?

October 7, 2006 at 9:30 pm by Designer Ella

You may know (but you probably don’t) that my cousin Jackie was getting married. I was a bridesmaid. I can’t really tell any of the good stories now that I’m back blogging more again, because all I can think of is one of them …. …. ….

Guess what happened at Jackie’s wedding?!

…. ….


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Untimely Delivery

August 8, 2006 at 5:50 pm by Designer Ella

As you may know, a family pet died last Monday.

The next day, one day ahead of schedule, my baby Coach arrived.

Coach Medium Carryall

Naturally I wasn’t as excited as I would have been before. I have life in better priority now. I took time off to be with family that week, but it was not plain old baby-bag maternity leave, unfortunately.

Still, my love did grow for this bag, as that should be clear with me.

Coach Medium Carryall

I have not named it though. I don’t look at it and feel a name. Do you want to help me name it?

I might want to give it a name that somewhat reflects the late pet, Natasha Grace, but I don’t want to give Tasha’s name to a bag. Even I don’t like that. Tasha belongs to her alone.

It could reflect that it is my baby of a bag. It could reflect the Signature. And it is a Hamptons, if that helps. Also, I’m open to either male or female names. Before it arrived, I was thinking I might go male.

Here is one large picture:

Coach Medium Carryall

Bag I last wore: (pictured above) Coach Hamptons Medium Signature Carryall with Chestnut Calf Leather Trim.


Friends are Better than Dates

July 25, 2006 at 4:50 pm by Designer Ella

I have a “Dude.” He is the perfect guy friend for a girl, yet he’s not quite the gay best friend. For years, he seemed almost gay in lack-of-girl practice, but he’s doing better in romance!

He’s dating someone now and they just kissed! I was so excited.

Except that I got pretty jealous. I want to date. And sometimes I get sad over this certain love from my past. It happened again last night. I really got depressed like I haven’t in many months.

It was bad, I couldn’t sleep. I really felt like a drink. Oh, I mean a cocktail. Yes, in the middle of the night, alone. A cocktail. A fabulous one .. that’s it. Okay, just a raspberry wine cooler. But I. did. not. do. it. I don’t drink for the wrong reasons (since that one time at 18, and even then I only got a little “happy”). With my personality and issues, I need to be careful around alcohol (just in case).

Then I spoke to my Dude this afternoon, and he understood my enthusiasm was a bit much for his peck, and he knew I was sad. I can’t hide that in my voice from him.

We talked. We both know instinctively the same reasons why this past love is not right for me. We’re on the same wavelength. He really helped me, once more.

He then called later to make sure I was okay. He’s great.

Now why isn’t my Dude the one for me? He’s practically the perfect guy, but not for me romantically, we’re perfect friends. It can be confusing and difficult to have a male best friend, but we make it work.

How is he not perfect for me? Sometimes I get a little lost and wonder, but I know. It’s other people who don’t understand us.

But when he helps me, shows he knows me, and we both think just the same thing (in our own ways), I know I need him as a friend. It’s so important that I have that person in a friend. Friends are higher on the necessity list, as guys leave, and we need friends to get us through.

My Dude will never leave. And this all makes me think that past guy … it’s just not the same. It’s not worth it to get upset all over again over anyone, period.

Now, cheers to working things out, a toast to great friends. But I think this time I’ll just have an organic cola or a Silk smoothie. To be sure.

Also, what a wasted day! I need to do at least one blog entry!! And freshen up! I need to go prettify, first things first, after all.

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July 23, 2006 at 11:00 am by Designer Ella

Living with my family as I do, I have to bend with bathroom time. So it was necessary to tape record (no TiVo wahh) the “Hot Topics” from The View on Friday while I showered. I watched the tape Saturday night (I got that Chinese then sat down with my computer and a couple of recorded programs. That was my night, sad?).

The first topic brought up was something new to me: breaking up via text message.

What?! Has the world gone mad? Manners are necessary and admirable, people. Well, this guest host (Tanika Ray again) might just have not found her guy yet because of karma (as she was the TXT-Dmpr).

First the kids got cyber-intimate, now they’re replacing phone calls with key pads, and compassion & chemistry with electronic signals.

I usually love my technology (as I’ve demonstrated; computer, cable Internet, t.v. [no TiVo though]), but our world is taking it too far.

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My Father Bought Pleated Pants

July 17, 2006 at 11:00 am by Designer Ella

I could not stop him. I could not stop him. I could not stop him.

The scary thing is the associate at Men’s Wearhouse argued me on the point. He was quite obnoxious. He knows fashion, yet somehow doesn’t know anything that goes against what his store sells (I think it’s all pleated-trousered suits!!!).

Everyone else agrees at the very least that stocky men look larger in pleats, including my Best Dude.

On the plus side he got really nifty shoes, a matching belt, pocket squares, and socks to match all those horrid trousers.

On the really, seriously, really negative side. He opened a credit card there and nearly spent $1,000.

The man does not even have an office job!!!

Man, I am not overpowered that much by Coach sales people, and bags are my thing! He hates fashion! (Or he used to, hmm.)

Well, sadly now I know where a good deal of my shopping weakness comes from.

Yesterday’s Handbag: Vintage Gucci: “G. Love”

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Can I take a “Weather Day”?

July 14, 2006 at 4:33 pm by Designer Ella

Yesterday was gloomy and I swear I have “Seasonal Affective Disorder,” in which I get depressed during the Spring & Summer, when the sky is dark and grey when it should be bright. It should be a thing. But my Best Dude Forever (BDF) thinks I’m lazy and whiny. (At first he said I have no disorder, then said I have “lazy” disorder. Tuh!)

Today is unbearably hot in our barely–air-conditioned little house. Opposite, but causing a slightly similar effect. I’m tired and melty. I still exercised, which I need but it made me feel worse in the hot & melt department. Why am I too lazy to go to a proper, nice gym? (At least I have the official disorder as an excuse. ;-))

One thing this means is that I can’t muster the energy and creative forces to blog properly.

But why can’t I have a good excuse to not blog on occasional week days? What I’m doing is not rocket science, and I should get some benefit from my work being so casual.

It may be cash and for entertainment, but it’s still hard work. Product blogging is a specific type of tough. I have to be inspired.

So, it’s only Friday, but gosh, I need the break!

Disorder, no disorder, or even multiple disorders. It’s really my prerogative!

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Plain Jackie

July 13, 2006 at 11:00 am by Designer Ella

Crate & Barrel Impressions GlassesMy mums and I went shopping at Crate and Barrel for my cousin Jackie’s wedding registry last night. She . has . the . plainest . taste.

White bakeware is one thing, but she wants plain, clear drinking glasses (and no cool barware, tut!).

I pretty much refuse to buy that. ;-) I wished to get her these lovely ones with nifty indents in the glass. They’re even practical, being comfortable to hold. But of course I can not.

What can I do with this plain J.?

Yesterday’s Handbag: Vintage Gucci: “G. Love”

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Fashion is Killing Me

July 10, 2006 at 9:00 am by Designer Ella

Fashion has steadily changed me over the last year and a half to two years, most of that from fashion blogging.

Fashion could likely lead to my demise.

To blog about fashion (which is something I somehow decided I wanted to do because I wanted to chronicle shoes and then everything snowballed) one must become an expert. Well that’s true of almost anything.

So in doing this, I must memorize styles of all designers and materials and of course, dress the part.

So …

  1. Fashion is eating up my money.
  2. I don’t know if I can hold a man when I find him, because—for one, he may not like the fact that I buy 3 (or more) handbags a month that will seem very expensive to him—and two, do men even like that fashionista type? I’m so much more, and aren’t we all, but with my being easily distracted into noticing and blurting out fashion stuff, will guys get that far to see it all?
  3. Then I could mention that I’m a part of an industry that is not exactly saving puppies … I’m not exactly writing Pulitzer material. But this is so suited to me—does that say something?

Hmm. So in conclusion, screw any man who doesn’t like me. Forget them all if I must. Do what I love … but make sure to make loads of cash to support my habit.


Today’s Handbag: Marc by Marc Jacobs

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