Friends are Better than Dates
July 25, 2006 at 4:50 pm by Designer EllaI have a “Dude.” He is the perfect guy friend for a girl, yet he’s not quite the gay best friend. For years, he seemed almost gay in lack-of-girl practice, but he’s doing better in romance!
He’s dating someone now and they just kissed! I was so excited.
Except that I got pretty jealous. I want to date. And sometimes I get sad over this certain love from my past. It happened again last night. I really got depressed like I haven’t in many months.
It was bad, I couldn’t sleep. I really felt like a drink. Oh, I mean a cocktail. Yes, in the middle of the night, alone. A cocktail. A fabulous one .. that’s it. Okay, just a raspberry wine cooler. But I. did. not. do. it. I don’t drink for the wrong reasons (since that one time at 18, and even then I only got a little “happy”). With my personality and issues, I need to be careful around alcohol (just in case).
Then I spoke to my Dude this afternoon, and he understood my enthusiasm was a bit much for his peck, and he knew I was sad. I can’t hide that in my voice from him.
We talked. We both know instinctively the same reasons why this past love is not right for me. We’re on the same wavelength. He really helped me, once more.
He then called later to make sure I was okay. He’s great.
Now why isn’t my Dude the one for me? He’s practically the perfect guy, but not for me romantically, we’re perfect friends. It can be confusing and difficult to have a male best friend, but we make it work.
How is he not perfect for me? Sometimes I get a little lost and wonder, but I know. It’s other people who don’t understand us.
But when he helps me, shows he knows me, and we both think just the same thing (in our own ways), I know I need him as a friend. It’s so important that I have that person in a friend. Friends are higher on the necessity list, as guys leave, and we need friends to get us through.
My Dude will never leave. And this all makes me think that past guy … it’s just not the same. It’s not worth it to get upset all over again over anyone, period.
Now, cheers to working things out, a toast to great friends. But I think this time I’ll just have an organic cola or a Silk smoothie. To be sure.
Also, what a wasted day! I need to do at least one blog entry!! And freshen up! I need to go prettify, first things first, after all.
